You are not alone in this
If you are worried about someone you care about, you are not alone. Noticing changes in someone’s behaviour, mood, or connection can be unsettling. You may feel unsure about what to say or afraid of saying the wrong thing.
Your concern matters. This section is here to support you with clear information, practical tools, and safe next steps.
When to trust your concern
You do not need certainty to reach out. Sometimes the most important sign is simply a feeling that something is not right.
Trust your gut
If something feels off, it probably is. You don’t need to wait for certainty before reaching out to someone you care about.
Act with care
Showing up for someone — even imperfectly — can show them they are not alone. Your presence matters more than the perfect words.
Signs to watch for
People who are struggling may show signs in different ways — changes in how someone acts, talks, or connects with others.
- Withdrawal from friends, activities, or daily routines
- Increased sadness, irritability, or agitation
- Expressions of hopelessness or feeling like a burden
- Changes in sleep, appetite, or substance use
- Talking about feeling trapped, overwhelmed, or wanting escape
How to start a conversation
Knowing what to say can feel hard. Here are practical ways to start a caring, open conversation.
Choose the right moment
Find a quiet, private time when you won’t be interrupted and the person feels at ease.
Ask directly and calmly
“I’ve noticed you haven’t seemed like yourself lately — are you okay? Are you thinking about suicide?”
Listen without judgment
You don’t need to have all the answers. Just being present and listening can make a profound difference.
How to help safely
Once you’ve started the conversation, here are next steps to help keep them safe.
If they are in danger right now
Stay with them. Remove access to means if safe to do so. Call 911 or take them to the nearest emergency department.
If they need ongoing support
Help them connect with a professional. Offer to go with them. Check in regularly — your consistency matters enormously.
If they are in immediate danger
Stay with them. Remove access to means if it is safe to do so. Call 911 or take them to the nearest emergency department. You do not need to handle this alone.