I’m Worried About Someone
If you are worried about someone you care about, you are not alone.
Noticing changes in someone’s behaviour, mood, or connection can be unsettling. You may feel unsure about what to say or afraid of saying the wrong thing. Your concern matters. This page offers clear information, practical tools, and safe next steps.
When to Trust Your Concern
You do not need certainty to check in. Sometimes the most important sign is simply noticing that something feels different.
Trust your gut
If something feels off, it probably is. You don’t need to wait for certainty before reaching out to someone you care about.
Act with care
Showing up for someone — even imperfectly — can show them they are not alone. Your presence matters more than the perfect words.
Signs To Watch For
People who are struggling may show signs in different ways, including changes in how they act, communicate, or connect with others.
You may notice:
- Withdrawal from friends, activities, or daily routines
- Increased sadness, irritability, or agitation
- Expressions of hopelessness or feeling like a burden
- Changes in sleep, appetite, or substance use
- Talking about feeling trapped, overwhelmed, or wanting to escape
One sign does not necessarily mean someone is thinking about suicide. However, significant or ongoing changes may be a reason to check in.
How to start a conversation
Knowing what to say can feel hard. Here are practical ways to start a caring, open conversation.
Choose the right moment
Find a quiet, private time when you won’t be interrupted and the person feels at ease.
Start with what you have noticed
“I’ve noticed you haven’t seemed like yourself lately, and I wanted to check in. How are you doing?”
Ask directly and calmly
If you are concerned about suicide, ask clearly and calmly:
“Are you thinking about suicide?
Listen without judgment
What to Say
“Thank you for telling me.”
“I’m here with you.”
“You do not have to handle this alone.”
“Let’s find support together.”
How to help safely
Supporting someone does not mean managing the situation alone. Encourage professional help and involve others when safety is a concern.
If there is immediate danger
Stay with the person if it is safe to do so. Call 9-1-1 or go to the nearest emergency department. You can also call or text 9-8-8 for guidance and support.
If they need ongoing support
Help the person connect with a trusted professional or service. Offer to sit with them while they call, help them make an appointment, or accompany them if appropriate.
Continue checking in. Consistent connection can make a meaningful difference.
Support for the Helper
Supporting someone who may be thinking about suicide can be emotionally demanding. It is okay to seek guidance and support for yourself.
You can call or text 9-8-8 if you are worried about someone and need help deciding what to do next.